Why Do You Have a Cheating Spouse?
When a marriage runs aground, there can be a number of different reasons for the shipwreck. One of the most painful causes is that of unfaithfulness. A cheating spouse leaves the married partner feeling betrayed and very unsure of the future of the relationship. It often becomes an obsession to understand what caused the spouse to stray as a necessary factor in rebuilding the relationship and safe-guarding it from future affairs. The truth is that while there are many circumstances that may contribute,†both men and women cheat because they think that this action will in some way solve their problems or fulfill something that is lacking. The excuses often given for having an affair tend to be very selfish in nature when examined closely. It is common for the one who has broken the relationship to complain that his or her needs were not being met in the marriage. These could be sexual obsessions and fetishes or emotional attention and admiration. In some way the cheating spouse says that†he no longer feels really special in the marriage relationship. Issues of low self-esteem can also lead to looking for affirmation through someone else who finds this person desirable. Some people stray just because it is a risky behavior and the danger of being found out makes the affair more exciting. While the actual cause may never be fully understood, it is possible to rebuild a marriage with the commitment of both partners and a lot of hard work.
